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Why I started Fit vs Fiction and why I won’t shut up about it

BECAUSE:
We live in an image obsessed, fat-phobic, one-size-fits-all, thin is in, skinny jean wearing, thigh gap measuring, binging and purging, body hating society where kids barely out of pre-school are begging their mothers to keep them home from school because they feel like they’re just too fat to fit in!

And THAT..is NOT..Okay.

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The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents:Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens Thrive

Front20cover20no20spine   This is my book.
The book I wish my own mother had had when I was struggling and she felt so powerless. It states the problems but is full of solutions, games, projects, resources and cheat sheets for when your kids ask you sticky questions… and you need solid answers. The negative messages our kids will hear from the media and society will be loud. The positive messages we give them as their parents need to be even LOUDER!
As of today (Friday, March 15th) You can order your book from Amazon.com (or from my website www.fitvsfiction.com)
These are the tools you need to empower your kids to grow up with the self-confidence and self-esteem they deserve.
Self-worth shouldn’t be measured in pounds! xoxoSee More

Body Image Pledges for Parents and Kids: A promise to be good to ourselves and eachother!

Body image pledge (for older kids):

I promise to believe in myself and to reject the unrealistic and unhealthy ideals that may be thrown at me by society, the media or marketers trying to profit off my bruised self-esteem. I will lead; not follow. I understand that nobody can make me feel bad about myself unless I let them. And I will not let them. I believe in myself and I am amazing just as I am.

Pledge for younger child:

I promise to always treat myself with love and respect. I promise to be proud of who I am and not let anybody make me feel like I’m not good enough. I won’t judge other people on how they look because it’s what’s on the inside that matters. I will believe in myself and follow my dreams. I don’t have to be perfect. I’m great just the way I am. I don’t need to be exactly like everybody else, because I am unique and special in my own way. I’m me and I’m magnificient!

SELF-WORTH SHOULDN’T BE MEASURED IN POUNDS!

* “The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens Thrive”

Available through Amazon.com and www.fitvsfiction.com

When moms/grandmas don’t always know best

I am actually amazed by how many women have approached me for advice on how to deal with the way their own mothers and fathers are affecting their children’s self-esteem. It’s a cycle that needs to be broken, and it’s a tough one to break.

It’s estimated that by the time a girl is 17 years old she’s seen approximately 250,ooo messages from the media telling her what she’s supposed to look like. Now think about how many messages her mother’s heard, and how many her mother’s mother has heard! That’s a lot of messages from people who don’t know us, telling us WHO we’re supposed to be.

As parents, gradparents, aunts and uncles, we need to make sure that our fears and insecurities about food and our bodies don’t get passed on to the children in our lives. Interestingly, studies have shown that when parents focus their attention on their children’s weight, and put too many restrictions on what they eat, the risk of these children becoming overweight actually increases. The last thing we want is to encourage an unhealthy relationship and fear of food at an early age.

“I can vividly remember being at a family gathering when I was 8 years old. The table was filled with delicious food and I went to take something to eat. My aunt pointed at me and said to my mom. “Look! She’s eating again!” My mom walked over to me, slapped my face and told me to stop eating. The sad part is, I don’t even remember eating very much that day.” Jean, 35

“I grew up with a mother who was overly concerned with her weight; hers and everyone else’s. When I got pregnant with my first baby, my mother told me that maybe I’d get lucky and the baby would suck all of the fat out of my body and I wouldn’t gain any weight.” Susan, 43

“My family religiously watches shows where there are doctors talking about how to lose weight. Then they constantly repeat what they’ve heard to me and try to copy everything that they were told to do. I understand that they want to be healthy, but hearing about this all the time gets really annoying!” Hayley, 15

No one wants to purposely mess up their kid, and yet, even the best of intentions can lead to dangerous situations if we’re not careful. Often, in an effort to protect our kids from harmful situations, we unintentionally end up hurting them ourselves.

Criticism is NEVER a good motivator; neither are shame or guilt. It’s not our bodies that need to change, but our negative feelings around our bodies that do.

Here are some tips on how to handle the situation when a family member is making negative or critical comments towards your children:

1. Be honest and firm.

There’s nothing with saying, “You know mom, Jessica is a happy, healthy little girl and we all want her growing up loving herself and her body so we don’t allow any kind of negative talk around food or our bodies around her. I know how much you love her, so I’m sure you understand”

2. Don’t worry too much about possible hurt feelings.

While it would be fantastic to be able to solve the problem without anyone’s feelings getting hurt that just might be unavoidable. Protecting your child is your first priority, and if you show the critic that this is something you are very serious about,chances are they will at least try to be more sensitive with their comments. If not, let them know privately, that criticizing your child and undermining your parenting is not going to be accepted.

3. If a negative, hurtful comment has been said in front of your child, make sure you clearly contradict what’s been said and calmly express your own positive feelings on the subject to your son/daughter. The point of this isn’t to start an argument and shouldn’t turn into a long debate. But since you can’t take back the harmful words that have been said, you need to replace them with words of encouragement and acceptance.

4. Stand up and speak out.

Any time your son or daughter sees you stand up for an issue that you think is important it empowers them with the courage to do the same.

Any time your child sees you stand up for their well being it lets them know that you believe they are deserving of love, respect and acceptance which will help them grown into the self-confident, self-assured people they are meant to be.

The more unconditional love and support our kids can have around them, the stronger their foundation will be. if our goal goal is to raise happy, well-adjusted kids, we have to work TOGETHER to make that happen.

*Excerpt from “The Body Image Survival Guide: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens Thrive” By Marci Warhaft-Nadler

Open letter to Dr. Oliver Di Pietro of K-E diet infamy: STOP IT!

Dear Dr.Di Pietro,

After reading several articles this week about the K-E diet that you’re involved with, I have to ask, “What the hell are you thinking?”

When it comes to obesity, I’m starting to think that there are more people looking for ways to profit from it than there are trying to treat it.

But this isn’t even about obesity, it’s about brides-to-be, willing to put their health and well-being at risk to be skinny and a doctor who is just ridiculous enough to help them do that…for $15oo.

It’s normal for a bride to want to look beautiful on her wedding day, but as a physician, it’s up to you to do what’s in the best interest of your patients, not your bank account or popularity status.

A FEEDING TUBE?  SERIOUSLY?!

Have YOU ever had to be fed through a feeding tube, doctor? I have and I cannot properly express how terrible an experience it was.. The fact that you would voluntarily insert a feeding tube through a woman’s mouth and into her stomach in order to put her into a state of ketosis, just so her wedding guests could oooh and Ahhhh over how tiny her waist looks, is completely incomprehensible to me.

You are a DOCTOR. You took an oath to HEAL people not HARM them, how could this seem OKAY  to you, when it is so WRONG on so many levels?

Physically: There are side effects that go along with extreme weight loss; things like: dehydration, kidney stones, slow metabolism, bad breath, constipation, nutritional deficiencies and thyroid problems, to name a few. Gone are the “blushing brides,” and left in their place are  pale, lethargic ones.

But worse than that for me, is how this type of diet will effect them emotionally and psychologically.

For one thing they have just set the bar really, really high. They have literally starved themselves into their dresses, and will have hundreds of photos to look at for the rest of their life from the one day they looked “Perfect”. How can they possibly live up to that once the wedding is over and they’ve started eating normally again? They are setting themselves up for failure. Since they can’t live on the feeding tube permanently (although I am willing to bet that there are a few misguided women who would consider it)

They will gain the weight back and then be sentenced to a life of constant comparisons to what they USED to look like.

One of the most irritating parts of the article for me, was this quote:

“I get a lot of brides,” Di Pietro told the Times. “At first I decided not to do it for people who just want to lose a few pounds. But then I thought, why should I say 5 or 10 pounds are not enough? People want to be perfect.”

I have to ask, are you in the business of promoting healthy people or “perfect ones?”

Have you lost your way?

I battled an eating disorder for 20 years and now promote healthy body image and self-esteem through my Fit vs Fiction, Body Image workshops and I am blown away by how dangerous this entire concept is. Instead of using the engagement period to encourage your patients to make healthy lifestyle changes , you disregard their health and help them focus solely on what they want to weigh.

Do you have daughters? Grandaughters? If they saw one of these K-E dieters walking down the street with a tube in their nose and asked you about it, what would you say? Would you say, ” Oh she’s fine Honey, she’s just not perfect enough and doesn’t trust herself to know how to feed herself, so that tube is doing it for her”?

Not the best message to pass on to young girls (or anybody else for that matter)

I’m not sure if you are doing it for the money, the publicity or maybe because of some inner demons you have yourself concerning weight and food, but you need to STOP.

Stop encouraging the idea that skinny is best, at any cost!

Stop thinking that weight is a purely physical issue and has no effect on us emotionally or psychologically

Stop helping woman judge themselves

Stop helping women hurt themselves

STOP harming, START healing

HEALTHY is best…at any size.

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Charels Barkley in a dress?! UGH. You can do better than that Weight Watchers!

     Here’s why I’m annoyed:

Weight Watchers, as well as most other weight loss programs, are constantly equating being skinny with being healthy. There commercials often show celebrities in tight dresses or skimpy bikinis talking about how much better their lives are and how much happier they are, now that they’ve lost weight and can fit into their sexy clothes again. It’s always bothered me that they’ve completely neglected the fact that truly fit people can come in different shapes and sizes and the  focus should be on how our bodies WORK instead of just how they LOOK.

NOW they’re using Charles Barkley; a former professional basketball player. An ATHLETE. You’d think this would be the PERFECT opportunity to talk about how eating well and being active could completely change the way you FEEL. He could talk about how well his body functioned when he was playing basketball and how his recent sedentary lifestyle has left him feeling sluggish and weak, and how by taking care of himself, his body and his confidence level is stronger than ever! But noooooooooooo, Weight Watchers has decided to put him in a dress as a way of saying, ” Losing weight isn’t just for women”.

Sorry..I don’t get it.

Do they really think that THIS will get men to join their club?? Believe it or not, I’m not the kind of person that gets offended easily..but I think this is ridiculous!

With our society so focused on being SKINNY, more and more people who don’t need to, are putting themselves on diets and the ones who are overweight are feeling pressure to lose the weight for the wrong reasons. When are we going to realize that “smaller” isn’t always better..but STRONGER is?

Sorry Weight Watchers, I think you missed the mark on this one!

Does this backpack make me look Fat?

Body Image 4-8yrs

In 2009, a study done by the University of Central Florida revealed that nearly HALF of 3-6 year olds worry about being FAT.

3-6 year olds!

Truth be told, we all deal with a certain amount of worry regardless of how old or young we are, but there are certain concerns that just make more sense than others. Having to reassure your child that you’ll be home soon, the first time you leave her with a babysitter or spending a few minutes before bedtime clearing her closet of monsters is to be expected, but having to convince your stressed out 6 year old that her nightgown does NOT, in any way, make her look Fat, is not the kind of thing most of us are prepared for.

Research tells us that children have adopted society’s warped view on body shape and size by the time they’re FIVE YEARS OLD! One has to wonder HOW society is finding its way into their psyches SO SOON? Are the negative messages of self-judgement sneaking through some window we’re inadvertently leaving open or are they blatantly smashing through the front door? I think it’s both.

Some of the messages our kids are getting are loud and clear and therefore easy to spot, but others are way more subtle and even more dangerous because we don’t even see them coming.

New influences:

For the first few years of our children’s lives, we pretty much control their environment by deciding what they eat, watch and hear. But, once our kids start pre-school, they become exposed to all kinds of outside influences (classmates, teachers, other parents or caregivers) and it’s important that we feel comfortable with the examples they’re seeing and the lessons they’re being taught.

LISTEN and ASK

In our last article, we talked about what we can do as parents to promote healthy body image at home and today I think it’s important to point out the significant role that teachers play in our child’s esteem while they’re in school.  Recently, a lot of schools have decided to make their schools healthier by implementing rules around what foods kids can and cannot bring for lunch and snacks, they’ve also decided to tackle the issue of childhood obesity by teaching healthy eating. While intentions are good, often the execution is anything but. I truly believe that our schools want our kids to be healthy, but when it comes to FOOD and WEIGHT, we ALL come to the table with preconceived notions about what we should eat and how we should look and since it’s hard for kids to think of teachers as “regular” people, opinions can be mistaken for facts, which could prove dangerous.

Parent Tip:

a)      IF you sense a difference in the way your child is thinking about or acting around food, ASK questions.  If they suddenly decide to stop eating certain foods, find out why.

b)      TALK to their teacher. There’s nothing wrong with asking if there will be any weight or food topics discussed and how they’re planning on handling it. Again, this is an EMOTIONAL issue and it’s important to make sure your kids are getting the information that YOU feel comfortable with.

 

New Friends:

 

It can be exciting and a little scary for kids to make new friends and while we wish every new child they came into contact with was a great influence, we know that not all kids can get along or be friends. Sadly, peer pressure starts very young and it’s possible to feel like you just don’t fit in, before you even know what you’re trying to fit into!

 

Even at just 6 or 7 years old, kids can start comparing themselves to their peers. Recently, the mother of a 7 year old girl told me that her daughter came home from school saying that she didn’t want to be that fattest girl in her class anymore, and another mom told me that her 6 year old son begged her to keep him home from school because he was tired of being the smallest kid in his.

 

Kids have a very small frame of reference and need to be reminded that they’re not supposed to all look the same! Unfortunately, television doesn’t help, because most of the kids they see are carbon copies of each other.

 

Parent Tip:

Show your kids that people really do come in so many shapes and sizes. An easy thing to do is to take a trip to a mall on the weekend  when it’s pretty busy and just people watch for awhile. Point out all the different people that you see remembering to mention that it’s our differences that make us unique and special and that we are all different and unique in our own way.

 

New friends= New Toys

 

It’s easy to decide what we’re going to buy for our kids to play with and what we’d rather leave on the shelves at the toy store, but when the play dates start, some of that control is lost. To some people, toys are just toys, but many of us know how powerful they can actually be.

 

We all know that the Barbie Doll has been causing some controversy over the last few years, and with good reason. With all the “evolving” she’s supposed to have done over time, she still looks the exact same! Some of the newer Barbie’s have moved beyond supermodel and Beauty Queen to careers in business and medicine, yet they all still have size 0 waists and hips and live in impossibly high heels. Of course, Barbie is considered old school now, as there are tons of other dolls on the market perpetuating the “beauty is best” mentality. If you think this isn’t having an effect on our girls, think about the study that was done where a group of preschoolers were given a choice of 2 dolls to play with who were identical in every way except for their weight and 9 times out of 10, the girls chose the thinner dolls to play with. The really sad part about this is that this behaviour tends to continue in the playground when choosing friends to play with.

 

Barbie’s got a new boyfriend and he’s on Steroids:

 

Girls aren’t the only ones who play with dolls, except for boys, they’re called ACTION FIGURES.

I can remember being a little girl and watching my big brother play with his G.I. Joe doll and I can remember it looking very different than today’s version. The original G.I. Joe was created to look like a regular guy who was fit and strong, while today’s version looks better suited to be on stage at a bodybuilding competition instead of saving people from danger. Even our beloved Superman has been given a makeover. Apparently, someone decided that he didn’t look strong ENOUGH and gave him INSANELY big muscles and impossibly square jaw.

 

For a lot of little boys, these dolls, I mean..Action Figures, represent what a hero is supposed to look like. As a result, I have 9 year olds asking me why they don’t have 6 pack Abs or killer bicep muscles! We need to tell our sons that a truly strong man isn’t judged by the strength of his muscles but on the strength of his character.

 

Simply put, toys should encourage creativity and imagination, not feelings of inferiority and shame.

 

Parent Tip:

 

An interesting exercise you can do is start a conversation about the important people in your child’s life; feel free to pull out family photo albums for a visual prompt. Have them talk about the people who make them happy, make them laugh and help them feel good about themselves. Ask your daughters to name the women who they look up to and have her explain what is so special about them. Help her understand that these women are special because of WHO they are and not how they look and they would be just as amazing and loveable if they were taller, shorter, thinner or wider.

 

Same idea for the boys:  Who are the men that your son looks up to? Why does he admire them? Do they make him feel safe and protected? I’m willing to bet that not all, if any, of his male role models possess perfectly chiselled, well sculpted muscles and this will help him understand what true heroes look like. Discuss what kinds of people could be considered superheroes in his community; what types of people really do save lives? Why not take a trip to your local Fire or Police station where he can meet these heroes in person and see how different they look from each other, and as a bonus he’ll get to see some heroic women as well!

 

Now  Switch!

Do the same exercises in reverse. Have your son list the important women in his life and discuss how different they may look from each other and then take your daughter to see meet her local heroes too.

 

The great thing about kids at this age, is that they still think their parents are brilliant, sadly, that’s only going to last a few more years, so we need to take advantage while we still can.

Our voices matter, our actions matter and our children are listening; let’s make sure we’re proud of what we’re saying.

 

Self-worth should not be measured in pounds.

 

 

 

 

Open letter to Fitness Trainers r.e. Holiday weightloss pressure:

Dear Fitness trainers,

Let me start by saying that I have tremendous respect for your dedication to helping people get and stay fit; having worked in the fitness industry for over 20 years myself, I know the hard work and discipline that goes into helping others achieve the results they seek.

That said, I find myself becoming more and more disillusioned by how our society tends to confuse LOOKING fit with actually BEING fit. More and more people are focusing on the esthetics of their bodies instead of the mechanics of it and are forgetting how important it is to be healthy from the inside out.

I’m writing this letter because of how FRUSTRATED I have found it to go to my gym during this holiday season. It feels as if every workout comes with a free serving of guilt and fear. While it’s true that people tend to overindulge during the festivities, and there are many people who will feel the need to eat less and workout more as of January 1st, I think it’s REALLY important that you understand that there are also a lot of people who don’t want to be reminded of every extra cookie they ate or glass of wine they drank.

I suppose I’m a little sensitive about this issue because of my history with food and eating disorders, but it’s taken me years to get to a place where I workout out because it FEELS good and because I like knowing that I’m doing something GOOD for my body and not because I want to fit into a bikini by Spring break. I know I am not alone in this. During a spinning class last week, I was given no choice but to hear about how many cookies I was burning off per song and how many glasses of wine I was “earning” per workout. The woman on the bike next to me said, “Great, I WAS feeling good..now I just feel guilty.” I also don’t want to be told that if I work hard, I’ll get the 6 pack abs I want. Truth be told, I’ve had the perfectly sculpted physique and watched my body fat whittle away to almost nothing and I felt like crap. My goal these days to be HEALTHY and STRONG and I truly believe that THAT should be what we’re taught at the gym.

So please Mr/Ms Trainer, don’t tell me that we’re going to work extra hard to repent for enjoying the holidays or assume that I want to lose weight even if I’m a little softer and rounder than I could be and PLEASE don’t be offended at what I’ve written. We’ve become so caught up in the fit vs fat battle, that it’s become difficult to mention a fabulous meal we’ve eaten, without feeling the need to apologize for its calories and that’s a shame.

Different people of different ages, sizes and fitness levels join gyms everyday and we need to make sure that they are getting the healthiest messages possible. It’s all about progress and not perfection. While some people find diet talk motivating, I bet there are many more who wish it would just go away.

Let’s put the HEALTH back into “Health Clubs”!

10 signs that you may be a mom with an Eating Disorder

I talk a lot about Body image issues for kids and teens. Having been a teenager when my eating disorder issues started, I understand what it’s like to be growing into a body that seems inadequate and I know what it’s like to constantly wish to be thinner, prettier, smarter, funnier and more interesting. It sucks.

What I don’t talk about as often, but proved to be even more painful for me, was what it was like to have those feelings as grown woman…with children.

What made my eating disorder more disheartening as a parent was that I knew that it wasn’t just affecting me, but was now impacting the lives of my children and the GUILT from that was unbearable.

While I’m grateful that my kids were young enough to be somewhat oblivious to the pain I was in, I’m also aware that while they couldn’t understand what was happening, their version of “normal” had become somewhat warped, and that was my fault.

An Eating Disorder is about much more than food; it affects you physically,emotionally and spiritually. Life had dealt me some pretty heavy blows and for years the physical pain from what I did to myself with food, either by restricting it or binging on it, was easier to accept than the emotional pain I was avoiding. I battled this disorder during some of my teens, all of my twenties and part of my thirties. It finally reached a point where I had given up on myself. I was tired of fighting and feeling like everytime I managed to pick myself up, life would sucker punch me in the gut yet again. I was exhausted, but even though I had given up on myself, I could not give up on my boys. They needed their mom, they DESERVED their mom and I needed to be here for them.

I didn’t just want to exist, I wanted to be the type of mother that my mom had been to me. I wanted them to grow up with an abundance of memories of our family laughing, playing, dancing and just enjoying life. A few years ago, I found the help I needed and worked my butt off to get well and I thank God every day that I did.

My boys are now 10 and 13 years old and they know all about the craziness we lived through, because they’ve heard me tell my story many times, but they are just “stories” to them because the mom I am now is a far cry from the mom I once was. Thank Goodness.

Our society is obsessed with food and diets. Countless magazines, billboards and TV commercials tell us on a daily basis why we should lose weight and how to do it. As a result, too many of us have lost faith in who are and concentrate instead on what we look like.

Not all of us have taken it to the extremes that I have..but just in case you’re wondering…

10 signs that you may be a Mom with an Eating Disorder:

1. You avoid family functions because you don’t feel you look good enough to be seen.

2. Your children think they have your attention, but all you can think about is what you’ve eaten, are eating, or are going to eat.

3. On your way to a restaurant for dinner, your child asks, “Are you eating today, Mommy…or just watching?”

4. You have to CRAWL to your kids’  bedrooms to tuck them in at night because you’re either too weak from starving or too full from binging.

5. You leave your house at midnight, while the rest of the family’s asleep, to walk to the 24hour gym, an hour away and workout for 2 hours before walking home, in the dark, alone.

6.You discover that the child safety gates that your kids have outgrown are no longer packed away, but have been reinstalled by your husband so he could hear you sneaking downstairs to the kitchen to make pancakes at 2am.

7. While walking through Canada’s Wonderland wearing a bikini top, your son points to the bones of your spine poking out and yells,” Look, Mommy’s a DINOSAUR!”

8.You’ve never been on a family vacation where a bathing suit was required. Ever.

9. You find yourself having to convince your kids that they DID, in fact, already finish all their Halloween  candy, while you hide the wrappers in your underwear drawer.

and…

10. The food that you’re binging on, restricting yourself from or purging over is keeping you from enjoying the life you deserve and deeply want to have.

Here’s the GOOD news: Mother’s are incredibly strong human beings, even when they can’t see it themselves. There’s a gut instinct that will keep us fighting for our children’s well being, no matter what. It’s this need to take care of my kids that led me to the help I needed and gave me the courage to get well.

 This disorder is tough…but we’re tougher.

“Self-worth should not be measured in pounds!”

But I used to be HOT!

It’s not surprising to hear that young girls are feeling pressured to live up to the unrealistic expectations thrown at them by the media and society concerning how they look. They are struggling to be prettier, sexier and certainly thinner. What is surprising, however, is the increasing number of women over 40, who are struggling with the same issue. Intelligent, capable, beautiful women, who are raising children, running households and/or businesses who, for some reason, just aren’t feeling like they measure up; not to other women and not to the women they themselves used to be. Why is that? Some say it’s a basic fear of aging; of not turning as many heads when they walk down the street. No matter how much they’ve accomplished, if they can’t fit into their wedding dresses from 15 years ago, or squeeze into those favorite pair of jeans from a few summers back, they somehow feel like failures. Believe me; I know exactly how that feels. I have found myself near panic at the thought of family vacations where a bathing suit would be required and I’ve held on to clothes that were several sizes too small, “just in case” I ever lost the extra few pounds I put on over the last few years. It took me until I turned 40 to realize that the only thing wrong with me was that I thought there was something wrong with me.

Luckily, it finally dawned on me. I’m not the fabulous woman I am despite my age; I’m fabulous because of it. My body has become a little softer and a little rounder, but so has my life. As we get older, we have lived and learned so much, why we would we ever want to go backwards? I’m not the same person emotionally or psychologically that I was 20 years ago, so why should I expect to be the same person physcally. I don’t feel, think or act the way I did when I was younger so why would I look the same? Do I miss my super toned tummy and killer biceps? Maybe once in a very long while, But it doesn’t last long. I know that I have earned every curve and laugh line and I’m a better friend, partner and mother because of it. We need to embrace our older, wiser selves and realize that our beauty isn’t fading, it’s just getting deeper embedded into who we are.

In case you think this is just a “chick thing”, rest assured, men our age are starting to feel the weight of society’s obsession with youth and beauty as well. Research shows that in the last 2 decades, the number of men openly admitting to feeling dissatisfied with their physical appearance has tripled! Plastic surgery for men is at an all time high. One theory claims that it’s due in part to equality of the sexes. Now that women can do everything that men can, the one area where they can still excel in is strength. If they aren’t the strongest and most powerful specimens they can be, they feel their masculinity is threatened.

We tell our kids from the time that they’re born not to judge a book by its cover and that the most important beauty comes from who we are not what we look like, and we believe it, for them. Now is the time to reclaim that power for ourselves. Believe in ourselves again, stop looking back and be proud of who we are right now, no excuses, no apologies. We deserve it.

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